Wednesday, February 14, 2018

The 5 Love Languages and 10 Ways to Say 'I Love You' Without Actually Saying It.

I recently began a book called The 5 Love Languages. I am not going to lie, I never finished it! It could be because I had already heard so much about what the love languages are. I even took the love languages online test! I've discussed love languages with my best friend, and I've discussed it with my husband, so I think by the time the I actually ordered the book, there wasn't much for me to actually look forward to.

For those who haven't heard about the 5 Love Languages, it is a book based on research carried out by Gary Chapman, who concluded that the reason why relationships break down is not because of a lack of love, but because of too much of the wrong type of love. He summed up his findings in his groundbreaking book. What unites us as human beings is our emotional need for love, but we all differ in the kind of love we need or the kind of love that makes us feel good. 

If you can understand this concept, you will know what you could do for your family or significant other to bring out the best from them. By the same stroke, you should express your preferred love language to your loved ones to get them to do the things for you that you love.

I will stop myself from actually telling you what Gary Chapman's five main love languages are, just in case you'd like to read the book.

In his acknowledgments, he opens with "love begins or should begin at home", and honestly actions speak much louder than words,  So, I am going to give you ten ways you can say I love you to your family, or your nearest and dearest in the home, without actually saying the words. Find out what they love the most and perhaps try one of the following:

1. Fix that broken cupboard door, or replace the dead bulb without being nagged

2. Fill up those cupboards, stock up the fridge- take on the grocery shopping for the week

3. Nothing speaks love more than food.Whip up a fine meal (and do the dishes after!)

4.Do a dance with the vacuum cleaner, polish the ornaments on the mantelpiece, let the chores speak for you!

5.Volunteer to stay in and wait for that Amazon delivery for your housemate or partner!

6. If you love love (wink wink) light some candles, play your loved one's favourite playlist and offer him or her a back massage, and see where the evening leads...

7. Allow them to select their favourite Netflix series and sit down and watch it together without complaining!

8. Ask your family member how their day went and simply listen. Allow them to vent or gloat as much as they want. Just listen and offer feedback when required.

9. Pick up a gift on your way home. It can be as cheap as digestive biscuits or as expensive as a diamond necklace!

10. Tell your family how much you appreciate them and how great you think they are!

Don't forget to show appreciation if you are shown love, whether by deed or by words. Saying (or showing) "thank you" is another way of saying those magic words.

Have you read The 5 Love Languages? If so, have you sussed your loved one's love language? Can you add to my list? How do you show love?

Buy the book here.



  1. I loved reading this book. Really great for us to get to understand ourselves better and help our partners do the same. X

    1. You are correct. Whilst reading, the book really helped me to assess my marriage and to discover ways to love my hubby in the way he wants to be loved.

  2. I haven't read it but I'm going to after that summary!
    PS: maybe you should put an affiliate link on your blog for books you review. Cos I'm getting this based on this article.

    1. It's a very eye opening concept, I am sure you will enjoy the book. Thank you so much for the advice. I will look into that now!

  3. This is such a pure post. Doing things such as staying in for a delivery or fixing things are sure ways to let someone know they care - especially when done without being asked!

    Have a good weekend :)
    Wandering Everywhere

    1. Thank you very much. I think it's just about being considerate about people's needs and feelings. Thanks for reading and commenting 😊

  4. I've read this book too. Quite insightful. It seems every time I lay my hands on it, I find something new. It's right at the top on my recommended list on relationships.

    1. It is a very insightful book. It has really helped in my marriage because I am now a little more considerate about my husband's needs. I recommend it too!

  5. Ahhh this is so cute!
    And I love that you also pointed out the different types of "Love".
    It's more than "only" the romantic one between two lovers. You can also love your family members, friends and so one.
    Thank you for 10 tips how to take care of them <3

    take a look at my BLOG and also INSTAGRAM

    1. Hi Amely, I am glad you enjoyed this post so much. Indeed there is more than one kind of love. Unfortunately, the world only focuses on romantic love (eros). There are other types too! Let me know if you'd like for me to break own the other kinds of love. I am off to visit your blog now :)


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